How to Lead QuietlyCategories Leadership, Life Lessons
You need to be able to stand alone to truly lead as an introvert. It takes courage. It takes introspection.
Know yourself through your eyes not others –
From self knowledge comes an effective quality of leadership. You don’t need to be loud, aggressive or the Silverback hammer your chest to lead. Leadership can be compassion, mutual understanding and confidence from within. Its not your leadership that matters, but that which you are leading towards. We are not leading to become leaders, we become leaders as we walk the path of a leader. If you find yourself struggling, then lead in the manner which comes natural to you, even if it goes against conventional wisdom. People are different. We are a sum total of the weave of our baskets and the experiences we collect. We are all different which is why its important for us to know who we are in both a practical and an existential sense.
Its instinctual to look at ourself through the eyes of others. Most of us walk about with this second hand knowledge, wrongly thinking that its wisdom.
Judgement is mostly instinctual and you can never trust something fully until it becomes cerebral to some level. Observing your knee jerk is differing from just having your knee jerk. Judgement is experience, its subjective, its second-hand. Perception needs to shift from our two eyes, to the eye in us which sees us watching. Removing this abstraction, the most profound way of introspection is meditation. Meditation creates space between our judgements and in that space lies nothing and everything.
“It is what you read when you don’t have to that determines what you will be when you can’t help it.” ― Oscar Wilde
Lastly, wisdom through consumption of knowledge. Read as much as you can by following your interests but branch out from there. We’ve always been curious about ourself but we get too busy – finding that curious is profound. Reconnect with that wonder which we had but learnt to ignore. Reconnect with that insecurity of now knowing, because that leads into the unknown. Many books are a culmination of an entire life of research and insights of the author. When you are reading that book, you are reading wisdom of a lifetime.
“A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies, said Jojen. The man who never reads lives only one.” ― RR Martin
As you know yourself better, you become more comfortable with your self, as your shoes get comfortable, you can walk further.